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The word try has such a noble connotation but when you get down to it and really analyze the meaning, trying breeds failure. It is unfortunate because so many people hang their hat on the fact that they tried their best but inherently failure is a probable outcome when one tries.
I am not a Star Wars fan but I must say that Yoda had it right when he said, "Do, or do not. There is no try." Take a moment to think about that. . . .
Here's an example: When someone asks you to stop over for dinner and you say, "I'll try," what are you really saying? The reality is that you either will or won't go. So, are you going to go? Maybe, but probably not- if you were going to go you would have said, "Yes." You have kindly dismissed the offer with a possibility but not with a certainty.
Trying implies an attempt without success. When used in the past tense, "I tried..." it is almost always followed by a failure or an excuse and rarely a success. "I tried to get to the store but my car died." "I tried to hit the game winning shot but it fell just short." Very rarely would you ever hear, "I tried to do a back flip, and I did." No, you would hear, "I did a back flip!" Why then would anyone expect to have a different (successful) outcome when using the word in the present or future tense?
You must change your thinking and your attitude when approaching a task. Rather than telling yourself that you will try to do something, make the commitment to actually do it. Obviously this doesn't guarantee success but it does guarantee your effort. As a result of this you will notice many more successes for you because you have eliminated the inherent probability of failure. Failures will happen, they have to. And, if you do fail, then you did your best and that is okay- especially if you have learned something from it. But remember, as James Ray said, "Trying, is failing with honor."
So, the next time you have a decision to make about an action that you will take, chose to either do it or not, don't try- you owe yourself that much.
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